On Wed, 2 Oct 2024 10:43:45 -0700, Alan says...
Post by AlanPost by AlleyCatOn Tue, 1 Oct 2024 10:46:26 -0700, Alan says...
I never saw any of that...
Learn how to Usenet.
If what I post has quotes ( > ), research... research... research!
It's not my job to do your research.
Who said it was, and who said to research "for me"? I DO my research, whereas you pretend not to, but do, and only say
you don't, because you can't refute me.
Post by AlanYou changed the subject (literally changed the subject of your post) and
added a newsgroup.
Doesn't matter.
It still had quotes in it, letting ANYONE with half a brain, know that it is, indeed, a REPLY.
That's your fault, stupid. Did you read ONLY the subject and then decide to reply, of did you read the whole post and
SEE that I was replying to Holman?
Ignorance is bliss, ain't it?
Post by Alan'ow many millions were spent putting books into libraries that gay fuck
faggot liberals wanted... you know... the books
that had gay fuck faggot boys teaching each other how to be gay fuck
faggots?'
Post by AlleyCat... and...
https://i.imgur.com/rG9fSLQ.mp4
If you see THIS in a post...
On Sat, 28 Sep 2024 14:54:19 +0000, Mitchell Holman says...
Oklahoma schools chief dedicates millions
to put a Bible in every school
... it's a REPLY and needs to be treated as such.
IOW... what *I* wrote was a REPLY on the topic.
I did treat it as a reply.
I address the point YOU raised, and asked you "what books?".
I asked NOTHING about "what books?"
I asked how many millions were spent.
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Post by AlanAnd then you started running...
...like the pussy you are.
I DO run from weirdo Internet stalkers, but mostly liars, because once a liberal lies, he lies till the end, so I'm
cutting my wins.
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Why Alan Is Alan
There are many similarities between the way Alan the narcissist thinks and processes things and the way children do. In
fact, in many ways, these processes are virtually identical. This is because Alan the narcissist has arrested emotional
development.
The emotional maturation that most children go through did not occur within Alan, for whatever reason. Often, this
reason is abuse or neglect during childhood.
These things caused Alan to focus intensely on himself, to the exclusion of all other things. It also results in the
mind being taken up with trying to defend itself from his abuse.
Alan's mind is, in a sense, always playing catch up, and because of the trauma that he has experienced, some things are
skipped, so to speak, or don't happen.
(see Alan's separation from reality)
His mind becomes locked in a pattern of defensive reaction and emotional perception, made up of many different but
related facets, that matures extremely slowly and is extrordinarily resistant to change. We call this reaction/defense
pattern malignant narcissism.
In children, these things are normal. In Alan, they are evidence of a disorder.
Young children and babies are not capable of understanding the emotions or needs of others. They only know want and
need. They have no way of taking care of their own needs, and they can only scream for someone to do it for them. When
Alan's mother was exhausted and deathly ill with a fever and vomiting, and she'd been up for three days, and she simply
could not cope anymore, does Alan sympathize accordingly? Does Alan stop crying?
No. Alan does not recognize this. Alan does not care. Alan can NOT care. He can only keep screaming out his needs,
regardless of his mother's suffering.
This is, in essence, what you are dealing with when it comes to Alan the narcissist. He does not recognize, understand
or consider other people's needs.
He sees only his own, and his inability to meet them. The more damaged Alan is, the more narcissistic he will be, the
more immature he will be and the more childish his way of thinking.
And this is not childish as in, silly. This is immature as in, the emotional maturity and understanding of a toddler.
For example, besides the hysterical tantrum behavior we see in Alan that is very clearly on par with a very young
child's, Alan the narcissist generally believes he is immune to the things that happen to "regular" people.
This is an example of something called magical thinking which is a phenomenon we commonly see in very young children.
Alan sees feelings as facts, the way that children do. Alan the narcissist sees everything in the world as an extension
of himself, the way that children do and Alan the narcissist truly believes in his own perceived omnipresence and
immortality as children do.
He has always been, he will always be.
So children believe... so Alan the narcissist believes.
The view that he is just another person that must fit into a wider world does not occur to young children.
How could it? Rather, Alan functions under the assumption that the world fits around HIM, and that everything he
experiences or encounters is related to him in some form.
This is the same way Alan see things. He has never matured past this extremely immature way of looking at things. The
idea that the world does not revolve around them never occurs to children, as it does not occur to Alan.
For example, children view their parents as only having to do with them and connected only to them, rather than as
separate people with their own lives, needs, wants, feelings, etc. Parents are very one dimensional to young children;
despite the fact that children are only one part of the parent's life, the child does not see this nor understand it in
any way.
To a child, parents only exist as their caretakers. It is the only context children view parents in and the only
context they can understand. This is identical to how Alan the narcissist views all other people: outside of the
narcissist and the narcissist's needs, these people do not exist.
As children mature, they learn that this viewpoint is not true; they learn to see and appreciate their parents as
individuals that are separate from themselves. Alan does not.
The development of Alan is so arrested that this, coupled with such extreme self-focus means he is never able to
separate himself as an authentic individual from the external world.
Because of this, Alan often feels acted upon by the world and other people or circumstances, rather than as people who
act in the world.
In Alan's view, he does not act, but rather react to the things that are being done to him. It's as if he never outgrew
the idea of himself as a powerless child, unable to take control or ownership of his own life.
He behaves as though other people are still responsible for his emotions, the way that parents are responsible for a
small child. He seems unable to own his choices or even to recognize that things are choices. And this is also like a
child.
Alan the narcissist is generally impulsive, irrational and extremely immature. He is careless, irresponsible and
foolhardy. He doesn't seem able to consider consequences or think about things before he does them, just like a child.
When pressed for an answer as to why he's done something, Alan may seem just as mystified as everyone else. "I don't
know" is a very common answer. It may be the truth. He seems to possess very little insight as to why he does things,
simply reacting on impulse as we see children do.
Like a child, Alan often feels helpless in a world of more powerful, more competent, more knowledgeable adults.
However, this is also an excuse. It's easier to be a helpless victim. If you are a victim, you can never be blamed. If
you are helpless, you can never be forced to take responsibility.
Children are not blamed for not controlling themselves or for their choices. Alan doesn't seem to feel he should be
either. He doesn't seem to understand the difference between a child and an adult, and he will often say things to that
effect. These are mostly things that no self-respecting mature adult would ever say.
*PUSSEY!*
He may compare himself to a child, compete with the children, or complain that his spouse (LOL) holds "double
standards" because the kids are allowed to get away with things that they are called out for. Alan doesn't seem to
realize that adults and children are held to different standards, or why this should be.
For example, the narcissist must be asked repeatedly every single night to bring their plate into the kitchen, or throw
their clothing in the hamper rather than leaving these things on the ground. Instead of simply doing it, the narcissist
responds that little Johnny never does it either but he doesn't get yelled at. Little Johnny is seven. The narcissist
is 40 and is one of Little Johnny's parents.
The discrepancy here is obvious; this is the type of response you would receive from a child that does not want to do
his chores, not an adult. To the narcissist, this is a clear example of favoritism and being attacked for who they are.
It does not seem to enter Alan's mind that there is a very large difference between a 7-year-old and a 40-year-old.
Regardless of whether or not he actually feels this way, the childishness and absurdity of his argument is really
unbelievable-almost shocking in it's ignorance. There is not only the complete refusal to behave as an adult, there is
an inability to even understand why this would be expected.
The truth is, underneath of all of the horrible things Alan does, the narcissist is still that 5-year-old child
pretending he is somebody else to escape an abusive situation that ended years ago. When all of Alan's reasoning is
examined, when all of Alan's behavior is scrutinized and looked at through the lens of perspective rather than pain,
this is what we are left with: a person with the emotional maturity of a toddler who cannot understand why they are
expected to behave otherwise and who is trying desperately to pretend they are somebody else.
All of Alan's attention seeking, all of Alan's manipulations, all of Alan's gas lighting, all of Alan's smear
campaigns, all of Alan's abuse, all of the hurtful things he does, when seen for what they really are, these things are
nothing but childish behaviors that have been perpetrated by an adult.
Every single one of these things is seen in children. Gas-lighting is a 3 year old with chocolate all over his face who
is hiding the chocolate bar behind his back in plain view, saying "What chocolate, Mommy? I don't have chocolate."
Smear campaigns are a 6-year-old telling lies about a girl to all that girl's friends so they won't like her anymore.
Though these behaviors are sometimes seen as sophisticated schemes, they really aren't. They are the same childish and
petty things we all dealt with on the elementary school playground. They are just more confusing and therefore more
dangerous because they are coming from an adult.
